In the information age, betrayals have moved into a new dimension. Communicating on the Internet, people have new emotional attachments. Most private, long-term Internet correspondence leads to physical infidelity.

Do you like sympathy for a married man? We will analyze in detail what kind of final may be in adultery.

The main reason for the change is dissatisfaction with relations in the family

Why married men have mistresses

Fear of obligations. Marriage vows, calling for a lifelong love, loyalty, can enter into a stupor. The man wants to prove that he is still "on horseback", not driven by a female heel.

The need for new sensations. The daily routine of family life, it becomes boring. For the sake of new emotions and experiences, men start an affair with another woman. Meetings in new restaurants, hotels, the risk of being recognized, unmasked give a charge of fresh energy.

Sexual dependence. Spouses who have some preferences of the sexual sphere may be afraid to admit their half. Adultery becomes the only way out of the release of sexual tension.

Divergence of hobbies. If a couple does not have common interests outside the apartment, eventually they will want to find a soul mate. Dialogues about your favorite subject can bring true joy.

Loneliness. Lack of attention is detrimental to tender feelings. Treason becomes the cry of the soul. Having lost mutual understanding in native penates, the man is forced to seek consolation of other people's embraces.

Low self-esteem. A person needs to feel necessary and important. He is looking for the attention of people who will need it, to admire. Work stresses, ridicule at home entail psychological trauma, heal which a man will be on the side.

The escape. For many, loneliness is intolerable, they can not finish the relationship without having prepared a "spare airfield". It is important to remember that a person never leaves to someone, always from someone.

Power of nature. Psychologists believe that men change because they can do it. Being more time outside the home, they are subject to temptations and often they are inferior.

How to entice a married man

Becoming a mistress of a married man is a difficult choice, there is no "right way". One eternal female rule says: "Do not impose yourself." Men are males, they choose their "victim", they have a sweet feeling of "persecution". How to identify sympathy from the opposite sex:

Finding ways to spend time with you. If a married man is interested, he can create opportunities for a "casual meeting." For example, dinner at your favorite restaurant, or come to a charity evening, knowing that you are taking part in it. May volunteer to work late on an uncomplicated project, together with the object of lust.

  If a man is interested in you, he can create opportunities for a "casual meeting"

Initiation of interrogative dialogues. Conversations often begin with the question of you. Questions about personal life, taste preferences can be considered as flirting. The interested married man stealthily gets information, making himself more attractive and compatible by determining your preferences and actions based on this information.

Changing the manner of behavior in the society of the object of sympathy. Observe him, behaves differently in the circle of friends and colleagues compared, when you are alone? If it seems unnatural, most likely, tries to make an impression. You can see fussiness, excitement, difficulty in finding the right word. Teases you and tries to make you laugh, shows tenderness, all these are signs of flirting.

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Straight lines. Interested looks directly in the eyes, accompanied by a gentle smile. Looking for a woman through her eyes at a social event, a detached view of a particular part of the body, speaks of sympathy, lust.

  Body language will tell if you are interested in a man

Language of the body. A man who is interested will tend to you or tilt his head a little sideways, the direction of his legs will point to you. Mirroring your actions can be a sign of amorous intentions. Playfully tap on the arm or touch the back when he bypasses you.

Disclosure of intimate details. A married man wishing to give "green light" uses the phrases: "My wife does not understand me", "I forgot when I could laugh so", etc.

Compliments, gifts. Anonymous gifts with elegant notes, suggestions like "let's fix your heel", displays of sympathy from the male side.

If you decide not to wait for "the sea weather, and independently engage in battle, all of the above points will serve as a hint for action.

How to build relationships with a married man

When love is mutual, a man divorces his wife for the sake of common happiness. Do not make the mistake of equating sex with love. Men can love their wives and sleep with others. A romance with a married man is not a game. This commitment with a very high price tag. People can, and often do, hurt.

Consider the prospects. Having discovered mutual attraction with a married man, ask yourself, are ready, you want to continue such a relationship, knowing that you are waiting for lonely holidays, a secondary role in relation to his family.

Be discreet. Provocation to parting with his wife, when a man does not want, is not ready, will cause negative emotions and a break in the relationship between you.

Exceed the lawful spouse in all respects. Self-sufficiency, self-respect cause respect. Recognition in the man of the main, important form a sense of need. Never criticize. Do not demand attention, gifts. Do not call, do not write sms and emails first, but when a loved one gets in touch, do not forget to say how bored, ask about his state of health.

  Most men never leave the family for the sake of a mistress

Prepare for each meeting. Pleasure without commitment, mind-blowing intimacy, the execution of sexual fantasies, the best filling of a meeting with a married man. Do not spit out the negative, do not load with your problems, be a listener.

Unconditional love. Give your lover as much adoration and attention as you wish. Lead intellectual conversations on abstract topics. When the fervor of the first months fades, the lover will appreciate your intellect and creative development.

Save your personal space. Make it clear to your partner, you have a life apart from your meetings. You can plan dinner with friends, go to an exhibition of a familiar artist, and do not have to resort to the first call for secret meetings.

Do not manipulate. The threats to reveal / stop the novel will expose you in an absurd light. A man will not stay long next to an unbalanced hysterical woman.

Press on pity, the wrong approach, the affair will last until the man is tired of wiping away tears.

Do not belittle the role of wife. With this woman you only share a lover, specifically she did you nothing wrong, remember that. Your bellicose attacks will show uncertainty and low self-esteem.

Be honest with yourself. Most men never leave the family for the sake of a mistress. Do not build air locks, put realism at the head.

A child from a married man

Have decided on such a desperate step - to give birth to a man who is not free, first of all think, you can, cope with motherhood without help. Lovers promise a lot, embody life less often. If the father refuses to materially / morally support, remember:

The main thing for the child is your health and well-being. A nervous, sickly mother will harm her child. Can appear. Love, start taking care of yourself first.

Do not hesitate to ask for help, advice from close relatives, friends. Do not be afraid to make new acquaintances, the society of people is important for internal balance.

  A child from a married man is a responsible step

Do not neglect social support for single mothers.

Be confident in your abilities. There are many opportunities for distance learning and work.

Ignore people who criticize your actions.

Learn to plan your monthly / annual budget clearly.

Set goals for the future, take steps to achieve these goals.

Remember - once betrayed, do not trust. If the father of the child comes into contact, do not put high hopes.

When a man, without leaving his wife, helps an illegitimate child, in each case, individual rules should be established. A certain schedule of meetings, the duration of visits, mandatory gifts on important dates. In this situation, the main preservation of the child's psychological health.

Relations with a divorced man or how to marry a former lover

After divorce, people need time to recover. To bring a divorced man to the altar is more difficult. A few tips will help overcome the "adaptive" period.

Wait until the divorce takes a final legal form. Conversations with lawyers, the division of property, rather stressful procedures, support, but do not interfere.

Be a friend, support, do not strive to clearly show the expected final.

Give time to rest in the feelings of disappointment, cynicism, uncertainty from the first marriage.

Probably, it is necessary to address to the family psychologist.

Make contact with ex-wife   and children. Children are not former, remember that.

Plan the wedding together, make sure that the partner is interested not less than you. Otherwise, there is a risk of failing, as in the first round.

Trust. Changed in some respects a man - not a hunchback, can correct himself. Constant suspicions will bring trouble, be sure of yourself and your husband.

Any woman who maintains a close relationship with a married man sooner or later is tempted to get him into his undivided enjoyment. Then the plot can develop in different ways. The final is directly dependent on how competently the operation "Change of ownership" will be developed and implemented.

It should be borne in mind that not all are "gone." That is, seduce, with a reasonable approach, you can almost any man (and a woman, too), but a global change is needed by a few. Nevertheless, thousands of lovers daily put all their strength and ability to ensure that a certain male, in a sound mind and full of memory, changed the awl to soap. Excuse me - one woman for another. And some of this focus succeeds.

In the struggle for love, not all means are good

The end justifies

Before you get down to business, think about why you need it? The reasons can be very different: in order to free the loved one all the time for himself, "redistribute financial flows" from his pockets, foul his official spouse, raise his self-esteem, win a bet with a bet in a bottle of beer.

The most unfortunate motivation is to take someone else's husband to make him his own: if you succeed, you will have to live with a potential traitor, and even in a bakery it's good to let him out.

Of course, the "keys" to all people are different. For someone the opportunity to break for the weekend in Sochi - a rebellion against everyday life, which will never go a sparing wife. Such a man as the air needs a direct and cheerful dirty head. For another, "sexual launching" is the opportunity to take care of a woman. And he has every chance to fall in love with a young foolish capricious, which will be the complete opposite of his wife. Dear gentlemen are looking for "on the side" of what they lack in marriage. Therefore, between a good wife and the right mistress there is a fundamental difference.

If hunting for other people's husbands has become a habit - this is a sure sign of domestic problems. The reason for this behavior lies in a deeply concealed low self-esteem. But the "object" won by battle ceases to evoke in the lady-conqueror any wishes at all.

Tip:most importantly - the entire diverse palette of methods of "withdrawal" and "beating", worked out by women in the history of civilization, do not reduce to daring sex. Firstly, if this tool always worked, poor peasants would rush through the streets like ping-pong balls. Secondly, on one sex, long relationships can not be built, unless, of course, it is not about conquering a poor man, who suffers from hypersexuality.

All in order

If you decide to snatch a loved one out of the arms of a legitimate spouse, first try to soberly assess your strength and depth of feeling for this character, since the probability of success is not that great. Only a very good mistress can take her husband away even from the worst wife. It's all a matter of habit, and there's nothing to be done about it. But there are chances after all.

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The main principle is to be present, but not to bother. A good mistress is a holiday, which is always with you. And for a permanent holiday it's very easy to "get hooked".

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Sex as a means of seduction has not been canceled. Only without fanaticism: a neck-ruffling creature in a leopard dressing gown - for many it's too much. And burning on all horizontal surfaces of a candle in general a bad tone. Moreover, combustion is a chemical process, during which oxygen is consumed. Simply put, the candles quickly become stuffy.

There is a type of men to whom the very process of transition from one caring (and tenacious) female hands to others is important. Calls, tears, slamming doors, multi-part disassembly, tortures of conscience - for them an endless adrenaline. When the passions subside, an abstinence syndrome occurs. The tendency to this behavior is revealed by people who lead a rather gray life: with average abilities, modest opportunities, poor imagination and unrealized ambitions.

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The more he does for you, the more he will become attached to you. Here is a paradox. Just do not immediately load the person with a major overhaul of the bathroom. Perhaps in time, you can even charge him with this, but it's better to start with something more aesthetic and easy: help reinstall Windows, for example.

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The old good tactic "he would have come, I would have turned away" acts absolutely on all males. Works particularly well at the first stage of communication. Periods of close communication and loss of interest to a partner should differ from each other, but it is not necessary to delay the "glacial periods" - a partner may lose interest in relations. Too long to train this way a lover is also not recommended - from the "unpredictable" relationship will turn into "unnerving".

After reading this article, you will learn about it, using simple rules.

There is an opinion among the people that you will not be forced by force. But contrary to common sense, a woman is forced to love married man, who does not dare to leave the family, which has long been his alien abode for him.

In such cases, the woman has to excel to take the beloved man out of the family as quickly as possible in order to equip her happiness for many years to come.

Let's listen to the opinion of an independent expert who believes that a married man can be taken from a legitimate wife, but only if he mentally has long gone to another.

In order to quickly take the married man out of the family, first of all, it is necessary to observe two important conditions:

1). You should know a married man too well.

2). To take the unfree man from a legitimate wife, he must believe you.

3). And, finally, in order for a married man to become your property, he must truly love you. Do not confuse love with a protracted obsession, which is called love.

4). If you want your beloved man to decide to leave the family, you must clearly understand that your harbor must surpass in every way the one from which he decided to refuse.

So, in order to take the married man from the family, you need to adhere to the following rules:

5). If the age of the unfree man has exceeded forty years, then your actions aimed at achieving the goal should be very cautious. The average married man living in a marriage that does not bring him happiness, nevertheless gets used to the way of life that has developed over many years. The not free man resigns himself to this. Try to reliably determine what exactly is missing a beloved man who complains about a joint life. If you can answer this question, you can later try to fill these missing gaps with your correct behavior.

6). To to take a man out of the family, You need to create an atmosphere that always needs something. There is an opinion that married men in an already mature age, driven by the desire for sexual diversity, are in active search for a suitable mistress. If you take this statement into account, you can conclude that you need to become a hot mistress of a married man. The family life of the average man is a routine of monotony, in which his grown-up wife does not cease to reproach him with something. Hence the conclusion suggests that you should become for the married man the absolute opposite.

7). More often, but in moderation praise a man, let him think that in the family he is much worse, he is constantly underestimated, and you managed to discern in him a talent and eccentricity.

8). Try to talk about money as little as possible. Experts believe that most families fall apart due to lack of finance. If you want to know the approximate income of a married man, then try to do it not rectilinearly, but indirectly. If his wife is constantly complaining about low income, then think about whether you need a married financially frustrated man. In the event that you are focused solely on his personal qualities, then tirelessly tell him that money though the main thing in life, but standing far from in first place.

9). As I said, in order to take the married man from the family, you need to win his full trust. This is the most basic rule. You must ensure that your beloved married man tells you about everything that happens in his family. When he will once again broadcast about an eerie scandal, do not directly say what his grumpy wife has. Listen to it carefully and regret it. You can even come up with a story from your life, in which you already had a sad experience of a short life together with a wealthy free man, but he could not give you the long-awaited happiness.

10). In dealing with a married man whom you want to take away from the family, you must position yourself as a complaisant and loyal woman, with whom it is quite easy to go through life. Remember one more important rule. A married man should be sure that with you he will be easy, calm and cozy. If he loves you, this does not mean that he is ready to leave the family for this. Your task is to become his good mistress only for the first time, and not for life. Therefore, find its weak spots and begin to act through psychological vulnerability. Only when he is sure that you are his missing link, you will not have to share it with another woman.

Now you know, how to take a married man from a family, using in practice ten simple rules.

Just once again think about whether it is worth the effort to achieve this goal. It is possible that your married man is not who he claims to be, and it will be better for everyone if he stays with his lawful wife in the family.

I express my deep gratitude to my friend, expert on sociological issues, historian Artem Sergeevich for his help in writing this article.

I prepared the article by Edvin Vostryakovsky.

Over time, in a woman's life, the moment comes when she wants to create a family. However, often her chosen one is married. Despite the seemingly hopelessness of the situation, there are ways to lure a man into their networks.

The first steps towards mutual feelings

If you love a man, you want to spend your life with him and give him happiness, even if he is already married, do not torment yourself and start acting. It is useless and long to wait that your chosen one will leave his wife himself, you will have to take someone else's husband yourself. This happens extremely rarely, even if everything in his family is not going smoothly. He will be kept by a long relationship with his wife, love of children, family traditions, etc.

Try to compare yourself with the wife of a man. Ideal   women almost never exist. The disadvantage of family women can be that over time they relax and do not follow their appearance the way they used to. Such omissions can be useful to you if you consider yourself prettier and more accurate than this woman.

Make sure that you have not less achievements than your wife's wife. If she cooks deliciously and her husband appreciates this, you'll have to try to cook no worse. Perhaps, it will be necessary to adopt different habits, behavior in everyday life that a man likes, take care of him correctly and meet every time in a fine mood. At the same time, do not forget that you must try to eclipse your opponent in everything.

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Become the best for him

Try to find out from a man what he lacks in the family, that you can give him a pleasant one unlike his wife. But do not believe his revelations too much, the representatives of the stronger sex can fool and make up implausible stories about an unhappy life. Try to recheck the male opinion with the help of other sources: co-workers, mutual friends, etc. The only way you can really become a woman of his dreams.

Men very much appreciate in girls the ability to have sex. Perhaps it's worth to find out how good his wife is in bed. It may also be that because of family troubles, men completely lack sex life. If you can deliver him an unearthly pleasure, he will certainly strive to try it again and again. This can be one of the deciding factors by which the guy will choose you.

Men tend to seek comfort and tranquility. If nothing helps, you can be "bad" for a while and let the man's wife know that he has someone on his side. You can inflame the situation with calls to her home. All this will lead to long scandals and clarification of relations, however such a turn of events can quickly push a man   go to you.

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Guest 09.01.17 12:48

I'll tell my story. By the end of the university, I already had a favorite work. There I met a man 10 years older than myself. I immediately drew attention to him. He is against me. First rather humorous. Sms, chats, conversations in the smoking room (he smoked). He was married, a child. In the family he often had quarrels, at work, too, not everything was as it would be desirable. Jokes quickly turned into treason. It seemed to me that everything would be different. I will be a good wife, working together. At me all also always developed and turned out, means and together at us all will turn out. And I definitely will not be like his wife. In the meantime, I spent time as much as I could (at work, in my circle of friends), waiting for sms or calls from him. Already I felt that in my psychology something is changing. You seem to be hidden in a dark sack and carry with you and you seem to be taking this secret and terribly insulting fate. I tried to get him out of the family. It seemed that many were getting divorced, many went away, nothing terrible, live on. I remember how my friend told me about a relative who had taken her husband away from the family, and after 10 years with her, he returned to his wife. I thought that this would not happen to me exactly. All the secret becomes obvious. He left his wife, we began to live together. I remember everything. I remember crying that I can not see my son. I did not really understand what hell he was going through. Hell it turned out for me. For many years. I tried as best I could, but nothing came up. Quarrels, resentments. I did not know how to get out. No matter how hard I tried, I was not good enough. I moved out of the apartment, but the relationship continued. Almost 8 years of life. Confidence in yourself was shaken. All the good luck at work disintegrated. Became sick. The first problems are for the female part. Then the back, then the oncology center. I lost my job. It turned out that with my experience and specialty to find something similar is almost impossible. Girls, we are unfamiliar with you, but this is my story and it is real. Perhaps you have not gone so far. Do not distort your life. It happens quickly and you do not realize what you are doing with yourself and others. It's easy to fall in love easily, to find faults with a family of others. It's even easier to get confused in all this. It is incredibly difficult to disentangle all this. I remember my brother's words when, with insult, she told me how bad everything is in life, - "Is it good to take someone else's husband?" And EVEN NOT SEEING ONE WITHOUT MYSELF. When then the brains get into place, all this is to be cut out of memory as a terrible dream. My father has an illegitimate son, I remember how horrible it was for my family. But why, having experienced all this in my own skin, I climbed into the same ******? Icorked my interior (anyone who has had such a relationship knows how painful they are), brought a lot of pain to other people, broke up the family. Thank God, we did not have joint children, - pain could be even greater. If you are wondering how to take your husband away, the only answer is NO. If you are a believer, you realize that this is a terrible sin with all the consequences. If you adhere to other views - from all points of view it is a swamp and dirt and there is no happiness in it and will not be. Do not look at the allegedly successful examples of strangers from broken families. You probably know for yourself that after the beginning of such a relationship, everything became worse in your life. Stay away from all this. There are many books on how to save yourself how to get out of such relationships. The psychology of "beloved women" (how many times I heard - you are not my mistress for me) is changing very much, it never hurts to look at it from the side. What seems to be love can turn out to be pity, fantasies and own complexes that come from childhood. It's bitter to realize, but if you are all right with self-esteem and you want real happiness, you will not be looking for all this in the everyday life of your mistress. For me, the book about the Marilyn Monroe syndrome was useful. There is common sense and a sense of self-preservation in the end. There are temples, favorite saints (Xenia Petersburg, Matrona Moskovskaya). All this knocks out nonsense and helps to withstand when you break these ties. There are relatives who will always support. Do not waste your life on dirt. For me, it's not easy to go back to those years, but let as few girls as possible pass this way.

The desire to take hold of married psychologists is explained by a subconscious understanding of its reliability, constancy, adequacy. A man who is married is more reasonable than an idler, is ready to support a family, to have children. There is nothing reprehensible in the attempts of a woman to "lure" such a lover. How to do it?

A separate question is how reasonable attempts to entice a man. Without trying to condemn anyone, we will give the real reasons, when the destruction of another's family is more good, and not meanness.

1. Real mature feelings. People often marry by stupidity, succumbing to a fleeting passion. It will pass, and the complexity of the character, the mismatch of views on the future and lifestyle will be revealed. Every year the problems grow, the youth leaves, the joint existence turns into hard labor. A man meets you, and a real adult love is born. If you feel the same, do not try to grab the turned-up option, amuse your self-esteem, then decide.
2. Absence of children in the family after many attempts. A married couple in which a man wants children, and a woman unable to give birth, is very likely to fall apart. It does not matter if you are near or not at this moment. The surrogate motherhood or adopted child will save the family. But these cases are exceptions.
3. Desire and willingness to become a wife with all the consequences. Do you want to lead someone else's husband, but are not ready to play the role of wife? Then you do not need to think about it. As a result, you will make at least three people unhappy. Being the next wife is a big responsibility, considering that you will be constantly compared, consciously or unconsciously.