On this account, I think that the idea of ​​women to become as independent as possible is disastrous for society as a whole. Here in America (and indeed in the west in Europe), no one will look askance at you, if at 30-40 you have never been married. Moreover, they will respectfully treat your choice, and if a person of non-traditional orientation - "his choice must be respected." Yes, almost nobody is bothering about this ... Here it is the idea of ​​freedom of thought and equality! .. I think a person should be free, but turn inside out and engage in perversions, calling it freedom.

With this ideology (I can not correctly choose the word), that women are not going to get married now (... and the baby is for themselves) they lose romanticism and mystery in them, which, in fact, is the main link in the chain of relations. Have you ever noticed how, over time, man's manhood becomes less appreciated, and the "strength" of a woman is praised? I believe that a woman must remain fragile and tenderness, the keeper of the hearth. No, let it work, if it's what it wants - after all, many combine family and work - but it becomes almost a feminist and declare another war for the entire masculine family ... this is too much ...

Incidentally, I've thought about this a lot lately. I have so many thoughts that I'm afraid I will not be able to express them correctly. By the way, I, too, 22. I remember the series on which we grew up. Now they seem naive to us, but it's not because we grew up, because at the time the 22-year-old girls, the Wild Angel, for example, did not seem naive, but because the realities of life changed. I why touched the series - because they reflect the spirit of the times. Then they did not touch on drugs and homosexuals in such serials. The pure and sincere love was sung, the main character was feminine and romantic, and now ... Mom dear. What can you watch now? Depressive and crushing soap operas / serials, full of violence, drugs, disorderly life and homosexuals. Okay, it's all TV, but it's just that they do not write scripts. They write about what life becomes, and it has already become such that primitive realities seem ridiculous and naive. I therefore do not know what will happen next to people, because "freedom" is already crossing all boundaries ... I have my sister in the classroom (she is in the 9th) once in class a pair of classmates pulled out electronic cigars and began to smoke so quietly ... In my time we played the gallows and the sea battle - and THAT, if the teacher does not burn ...

It may seem that I have gone beyond the topic, but for me everything in life is involved and one depends on the other.

And briefly: I do not like our time.

It's funny, time flows, life changes, and girls all want to get married. Despite the equal rights, the flourishing of feminism and the possibility of a free union, almost every girl looks forward to wearing a golden wedding ring on her finger.

Why should a woman marry: love, benefit, protection?

Indeed, why does a girl seek to tie herself up in marriage, on the example of her parents, knowing that cloudless unions are extremely rare? Is the woman so deeply embedded in the instinct of the keeper of the hearth that even very successful ladies who earn decent amounts doom themselves to the responsibilities associated with family life?

Earlier, when a woman really was a representative of the weak half of humanity, marriage was a necessary and justified part of life. It was necessary to release the family from their presence, and at successful coincidences of circumstances to bring parents material compensation for education in the form of ransom.

The independent existence of a woman was considered nonsense. It was necessary to stick to a strong enough man, just to survive.

But now, quite often, the situation develops on the contrary, the man-gigolo is looking for a strong lady who will completely assume his support.

The question of why to get married, for each girl has a different meaning. For some, life without a loved one is unthinkable, the latter seek stability, material well-being, others experience a psychological insecurity and need a strong shoulder.

And for the fourth marriage means simple joys:

• home happiness;
• birth of children;
• the comfort of a large and friendly family.

To understand more deeply the reasons why a girl is getting married, one should carefully consider each situation, and also understand how justified expectations for a happy marriage are.

And why did I marry, it's better to be free

There are several reasons why girls prefer marriage:

Attachment. There is a category of women who are ready literally for anything, so as not to let go of a loved one. This feeling can be called selfish, since the girl is not enough free relationships, she believes that marriage provides additional guarantees of the strength of feelings. Having met her future husband, she is fully confident that being constantly next to her chosen one will ensure a happy life. This opinion is largely erroneous. The strength of the union depends on the feelings of both partners. If love passes, a man will most likely leave a woman who has become uninteresting to him, and no love can stop him.

Children. The natural instinct is not influenced by time. Practically for each woman there comes a time when she wants to give birth to a child and realize herself as a mother. It's just that someone has this period earlier, someone later. In this case, and on the chosen woman looks like a male producer. Often after the birth of a child, the lady understands that the husband, in principle, she does not need, especially if there are no material problems. Such marriages are more often saved by inertia, as a woman simply wants to preserve a complete family in which the child will grow up happy. But she does not feel much love for her partner.

Loneliness. Ladies who have reached the age of 25-30 years or more, marry because of the fear of loneliness. Psychologists believe that this is one of the most common female phobias. The most feared are women, whose privacy is not very smooth. Therefore, a lonely lady is able to accept the first sentence or to start all tricks so as not to remain alone. Often later, a woman regrets that she married, obeying a phobia.

What else is behind the desire to get a stamp in your passport?

Here are some of them:

• Increasing self-esteem is not the least. Friends have already got families and babysit children, therefore, it's time to marry to go out to confirm their attractiveness and relevance. As a result, having received the cherished ring and bragging to her husband in front of her friends, the young wife encounters the everyday side of married life, which she may not have dreamed of.
• The gain is a strong enough incentive to sacrifice personal freedom for him. A man-earner, able to provide his wife and children with everything necessary, is an image that often dreams of an unmarried girl. Sometimes the desire for material security outweighs the feelings. In the future, the life of the spouses develops depending on the circumstances. If the husband is willing to groom and cherish his dearest half, problems between the spouses will not arise. But in case of loss of the source of income, a man risks losing his beloved wife. And sometimes Mr. Chance interferes with the course of events, and the woman is ready to throw all material goods for the sake of the charming stranger who has appeared on the horizon.
• Insecurity, a fear of real life and the need to make decisions is another reason for visiting a registry office. Sometimes a woman needs to feel protected from all life's misfortunes. In this case, the marriage can be really happy, as the wife perceives her own husband, as a defender with all conceivable and unimaginable merits. Destroy such an alliance is usually possible only if a man starts to look away, and a woman is forced to become confident to protect her marriage. And confidence, quite often, makes you look at your defender with other eyes. It's one thing to need protection and completely different - to really assess your own prospects.

Is there really no marriage without complications and a woman always needs a reason to justify her decision to legitimize relations? Why these questions?

Most often the girl herself does not understand why it is necessary to put a stamp in the passport. It's just another exciting adventure, a tradition that is still followed by the fair sex.

Here only statistics assures, that every year the quantity of divorces steadily increases.

Perhaps the reason lies in the fact that a woman herself does not understand why to marry, or bases her decision on the wrong reasons?

Now more and more often you can meet unmarried women. The question: "Why get married?" You can hear not only from little girls, but also from adult girls, and for some it's strange to hear from women held. This, as it seems a simple question, it is better to ask yourself before the wedding, and not after, so as not to be disappointed.

Readiness of the girl to be married

If before the girl tried to get married quickly, now there are no restrictions: how many years a girl should have the status of a married woman and why. It is best to discuss such an important issue with your girlfriends, because happiness is possible without a certificate of marriage.

Previously, when the girl was ready to marry, the doll was made a charm for a successful marriage, she was dressed brightly and colorfully. Particular attention was paid to the neck, it was quite long and dressed in different collars, which symbolize the qualities of the future husband. A ready-made doll was put on the window to look for the right guy.

Do not deceive yourself.

Mistakenly the girl counts on the fact that if you legitimize a relationship with a man, it is a guarantee of love and loyalty. Similarly, a woman starts to err, that if she does not marry, her parents will be disappointed or do it for spite to the beloved. The most stupid will be if the girl got married for reasons:

• called;
• just wanted.

Do I need to marry a woman?

1. To marry for the continuation of the family. Not every woman is ready to become a single mother, so after the creation of a family union to give birth and bring up children, the newlyweds manage to create a worthy unit of society.

1. Joint development. It is difficult for a single person to notice their weaknesses or strengths, and friends or relatives can not tell on everything. Only the second half as the closest person remains impartial. At the first stages of family life, the spouses do not have that kind of relationship that is with the parents and other close relatives, and so they notice everything in each other.

1. Learning to love. Do not be confused with love, frenzied passion or donation care. Legitimately, a husband and wife must take care of each other. If a girl tries to keep a warm relationship that was before marriage and after the marriage, it will be easier to learn how to love.
2. Get a sense of security. No matter how strong and self-sufficient women were, sooner or later, in her life, not just a man, but a family defender, should appear.
3. In order to maintain health. A joint union of a man and a woman helps to maintain health. Of course, this is important for a happy family.

Married after dating in the Internet

Internet dating is a huge platform where you can find a husband for yourself if you have doubts about yourself, are very busy or if your husband's search has recently ended pitifully. Statistics show that every year the number of registered marriages, after dating through the Internet, increases. Internet dating is most often practiced by people whose age group is 20-40 years old, and most often they meet with higher education.

More than half of the acquaintances have a continuation in the form of a date. This simple way of dating has the opposite side. In the networks every year more and more scams are registered, playing with the feelings of a person and cheating, they can make a scam and disappear.

Married to a military man

Many girls think that if you marry a military man or a cadet, it's romantic. This is a real man and a defender of the Motherland, also not deprived of qualities like courage and courage. Some girls take seriously that a young man, if not a military man, at least serve in the army.

A woman who is going to link marriage ties with a military man must take into account that the future husband of a serviceman is under stress, and often there are problems with the psyche. Marrying a military pluss and minuses play a big role, and you need to get acquainted with them before an important step, what would then exclude no pleasant surprises.

The disadvantages of such a marriage.

• There is no possibility to build a career. If the spouse serves under the contract, then the family is expected to move permanently (I doubt that any way to withstand such a rhythm). And the girl's choice is not great: either she sits at home, or is temporarily assigned to work in a military town.
• If the girl could not get a job, and to stay in a new place there are no acquaintances, then at home her only entertainment is her husband. And if the spouse does not have a hobby, the scandals with her husband will be regular.
• Not developed infrastructure of the military town, in which it is necessary to live a young family. Poor housing provided. Possible problems with housing after the completion of the service of the spouse. Sometimes girls do not marry a military man, because difficulties arise.

Pluses, if the husband is a serviceman.

• If the spouses were able to overcome all the difficulties that arose at the beginning of the service, then in the future such a family has the right to be called happy.
• The officer can not leave his life companion, which did not leave him in difficult moments. As a father he will be a responsible parent.
• If a young man decided to become a military man, this characterizes him as capable of pursuing goals, he is disciplined and responsible.

Married to a prisoner

Men who are in prison, regularly write ads about the desire to get acquainted with a woman. Such letters make the ladies not remain indifferent, because they are composed touching and frank. More than half of the people who are in prison are sure that they have not been put in prison, and they convince the potential bride of this. In the future, a woman can fall in love and be ready to marry a zek.

The real reasons why prisoners want to get married:

• boring, and if there is an active correspondence and contains the revelations of the girl, then this entertainment is not for one person, but for the whole barracks;
• intimacy, because only wives are allowed to have long meetings with their husbands, and this is a guarantee that the sitter will be able to receive normal sex;
• "Grev" is one of the main reasons why they start looking for a "zaoznitsu", ready to collect bags every three months with food and things, and take their loved one, though to the other end of the country.

Why do some girls want to marry a prisoner?

• The vice of criminal romance. Educated and educated girls do not marry a convict. And the one who exactly agrees to get married, grew up in an incomplete family or when someone was sitting in the family and another life is not represented, and education, most likely, is not present or has not finished her education. The woman begins to correspond with the zek, because it is deprived of male attention.
• Good behavior of the groom. If the future husband does not violate and has no penalty, then the wedding is allowed by the administration. A newly-married couple is allowed a long appointment. As a rule, married sittels behave better than themselves, so that they are not deprived of the opportunity, will meet with his wife. Girls are flattered.

Why does the bride refuse to marry?

• A girl can simply be scared of the changes that may occur and this can happen at the very last moment.
• It also happens that the bride still wants to have fun, and not to deal with everyday problems.
• I fell in love with another.
• It is possible that the groom has offended the bride.

In order for a marriage to be successful, the compatibility of husband and wife is necessary, because the spouses must not only walk through life together, but also be a support and an assistant.

In ancient times, women could not help being married and were very dependent on men. One of the reasons for this situation of women is related to the fact that women gave birth to children and had to raise and raise them. Yes, women even now give birth, but in the 20th century women had the opportunity to choose to give birth or not, and stopped giving birth as much as nature gave.

And, of course, there are other reasons and circumstances that have influenced the process of acquiring women's rights and freedoms, which allow them to decide at the moment whether to marry or not, and for whom to go or not to go.

Modern women are educated, successfully make a career, financially independent. But subconsciously, women feel that it would be their duty to get married. And while many of them ask themselves: "Is it necessary?".

Let's look together for answers to modern women's issues:

1.Do I need to get married. (Why get married).

In other words, is it really for a woman?

I will answer this question boldly: "No". As well as for men - it is not necessary to marry at all. Because marriage is not a paradise, not a sanatorium, but a way of life or, as Christianity says about it, even a ministry. And you need to have a special vocation in order to live in a marriage and this ministry to carry out.

Are women unhappy who are not married, and why are they unhappy?

A person can be unhappy both in marriage and not in marriage. The fact is that a person, in order to be happy, must first of all find himself and his destiny, his vocation. And, it may very well be that for someone this vocation is not associated with marriage. And do not force yourself to forcibly drive anywhere, including marriage.

But many women say that they really want to marry. Unfortunately, often this happens to women because they rely on public stereotypes and are sure that every woman is created for marriage and must create a family. Therefore, "not having performed their duty," some women feel unhappy. And they feel even more unhappy after they get married and live with their husbands for a while. And they will scold her husband and blame everything - they did the right thing (married), so if there is no happiness, then the husband is guilty.

And it's just not their calling, and it's good to understand this.

2.Why Marry.

For marriage there are many reasons - people because of what only they do not marry:

1. Love is the first reason. People met fell in love with each other and realized that they want to be together. And get married. Most often this is done by very young or young people, who are still very strong romantic mood.

2. Money is the second reason. People get married or get married to become rich and get more prosperity and more opportunities in their lives.

3.Social status of the career, another reason. People consider it decent to be married, and with greater confidence than to lonely people, belong to such people.

4. Absence of housing and loneliness. Running away from loneliness, people often think that marriage can save from it (and other ills). In part this can happen, but in many cases it can only become worse.

5.Willing security and support.

There may be other reasons.

In fact, it makes sense to get married in case you want:

1. To give birth to a child and bring him up as a harmonious person. (And not just giving birth "for yourself.") This requires a full, healthy family.

2. Hold as a wife and mother - fully. And this is possible in the event that you feel such a call - to be a wife and mother and devote your life to it.

Now this is impossible anywhere except for marriage. And if you want this, marry!

And if you simply want to "be with this man", "possess this man", "have a husband", or something else, then most likely the motivation for you for marriage is not real, and whether he will be happy is a big question.

But, of course, if you want, then you need to try ...

Actually - in as much as you want, "in so many" and go out.

Well, of course, it is not at all desirable to get married before the age of 18 - to your full age, when you have not yet legally all the rights. Yes, and do not register such a marriage in the registry office.

And the rest of the answer to this question depends on many factors:

1. Of the material prosperity of those entering into marriage. If one of them has money (or parents who agree to keep young spouses up to the point when they "get to their feet"), then this is a very good situation. And in such a situation it is possible to create a family at any time - both during the student's time and later (when the graduates of the university have just started working, and their income is still not big). Because in order for a marriage to be happy, it is necessary that the young people have something to live on.

2. If there is no money and there is no possibility to earn it, but there is a love and a desire to be together, it is still necessary to enter into marriage after a more or less decent income has appeared. What time it will happen - who knows, but without this marriage still will not take place.

3. From the presence in people's lives a very big love. If two people love each other and are ready to experience any difficulties that may arise in their life, then you can marry in your student years, and having very little income, and without housing. It is important here only that this decision - on marriage and marriage be responsible - that both young spouses understand what they will have to face, and did not expect the parents. Because in this case, their marriage will have to undergo serious tests.

4. From the goals that a man and a woman put in their lives. The most favorable age for creating a marriage for women, in my opinion, from 25 to 30 years. This is the age when a woman has an education, some kind of career, the ability to sensibly look at many phenomena in life. And sometimes women at this age already have some money that they can rely on if in the future marriage something goes wrong, and it will be necessary to raise the child alone. This is a good age, when there is youth and adulthood. And parents of many at this age are not old people and can help in raising children and something else.

In general, you can marry at any age. For example, if the first marriage is not successful, then go out again - regardless of age and everything else.

I wrote a lot about money and prosperity. And in marriage, it is important, of course, not only that. Important love, the ability to respect and appreciate a person, understanding, loyalty, the desire to be together. And also common values, goals, similar habits, desire to please another, care.

If this is all you have in relation to the person you met, and he has to you, then you must marry him - quickly, and not looking at age. And be happy.

Marriage is a union that formalizes relations. Some young people wonder why a family is needed. It is important to approach the decision with all responsibility, so that you do not regret it and do not go through the sad procedure of divorce. Many people think, and whether marriage is needed at all, maybe, do without it and live without registration. In formalizing relations there are negative and positive aspects, let's consider them.

Pros of marriage

1. Now you officially belong to each other. If cohabitation assumed some degree of freedom, then in marriage your partner becomes part of the family unit and must remain faithful.
2. Birth of children. Of course, it is possible to give birth to a child without formalizing the relationship, but still children, as heirs, should have some kind of security, which is provided by law.
3. Joint budget. Now you plan together buying, distributing finance. It's much easier to live together.
4. Great emotional involvement. According to statistics, the girl aspires to marry more. It is important for her to feel herself to be a legitimate wife, to belong to a particular man and to be protected. Life after marriage changes. People communicate more closely, get to know each other, solve joint tasks, quarrel and make peace.
5. Support from the side of a loved one. When a woman is alone, it is difficult to survive some stressful situations, no one helps during illness, no one to give advice. The husband becomes the person who is always ready to help. However, this is ideally, we build our relations ourselves and work on them.
6. Possibility to change the surname. In some theories, it is believed that the name and surname affect the fate of a person. Getting married, most often a woman takes her husband's surname, which means that the vibration changes and the direction of her life path changes.
7. Now there is someone to take care of. The woman was originally a keeper of the hearth and in her genes the care of the husband and the offspring is prescribed. Having married, she gets this opportunity. This is especially important for those women for whom the family and children are a vital goal.
8. A beautiful wedding in a white dress is the dream of most girls, they necessarily want to experience this unforgettable moment of transition to a new life.

Disadvantages of marriage

The formalization of relations officially, of course, has disadvantages. A woman will have to give up part of her usual life: less likely to meet with friends, be faithful only to her husband, after the birth of a child to have a break in his career.

Change will be in everything. The new cell of society must ultimately form its values, however, it does not work for everyone.

Main disadvantages:

1. Change the way of life. A question may arise, but why did you even get married, because you have to adjust to another person, take into account his needs and habits.
2. New duties, responsibility for the husband and children, the appearance of everyday life: washing, cooking food, cleaning, trips to the dacha to mother-in-law.
3. Appearance of relatives with whom it is necessary to find mutual language, go to them for the holidays and maintain a good relationship.
4. If you suddenly want to divorce, you will have to go through the division of property.
5. Narrowing the circle of communication: it is likely that her husband will be against communication with unmarried friends and some girlfriends.
6. The total budget. Now the expenditure will have to agree, and sometimes explain where the money disappears.
7. The need to constantly perform conjugal duties. At first, physical love is an integral part of living together, but after a while, the need for sex in a woman can decrease, especially after the appearance of the child. While you are not married and do not live together, you can find an excuse not to always have physical intimacy.
8. Wedding involves some costs.

At the present stage of the development of society, it seems that marriage is no longer a necessity, as it was before, however, a woman after the wedding feels a little different. She gets a different status, feels a reliable shoulder beside her. Usually the question of why to marry does not arise if the girl loves, trusts the young man and is ready to give birth to a child for him. If there are doubts, then this is an occasion to reflect, maybe you need to wait a bit, live together without painting and understand whether you really want to formalize everything and live together.